Planet Zero Gravity. The poll is on the right-hand side. I am listed as BMosley1 and this is why my design looks like:
Thank you! :)
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
VOTE FOR ME!
I entered a new design content (not really related to ones past), but I could use your vote.
Planet Zero Gravity. The poll is on the right-hand side. I am listed as BMosley1 and this is why my design looks like:
Thank you! :)
Planet Zero Gravity. The poll is on the right-hand side. I am listed as BMosley1 and this is why my design looks like:
Thank you! :)
Monday, March 30, 2009
Bitch 'n Moan: Latest Date
Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me, but then I realize I live in Connecticut.
About a month ago, I was approached by a guy on Gay.com (my latest guilty pleasure) who saw me in a chat room. He is older than what I'm seeking, but I decided to chat anyway. Guess what? Things went well. We later talked on the phone and yadda, yadda, yadda.
Our first date was awesome. I couldn't have asked for a better time. I was really glad to know he was in search of a serious relationship, but taking it slow. He confided a lot in me and made me feel like he was really interested in the core of my being.
Low and behold, by the second date, he became a little self absorbed. I probably got a total of 10 words in edge wise, but I figured he just needed to talk. So, I listened. A day or two later, I got that bad feeling.
Sure enough, his text messages slowed, the compliments stopped and the flirting came to a hault. I knew something was up, so I tried to figure out why, but he wasn't taking the bait. Mind you, this was after he claimed to be completely honest and communicative. I was experiencing the opposite.
I was in the mindset of taking a romantic path, but unfortunately, he was not and I knew that without him even telling me. I was hurt because he didn't tell me where his mind was. So, I decided to call him before we met up for a third time and drag out of him where he saw things going.
"Just friends."
That's where he left it. Being friends was fine by me (and still is), but I was pissed. Here I was making all of these romantic gestures while they meant nothing. Not to mention, he was making me feel like there was something good going on with all the hand holding, touching and kissing. It was for nothing.
He should have let me know sooner, but he wasn't living up to his own standards and now he's treating me like men have treated him in the past. That's okay. He's damn lucky I didn't develop strong feelings for him.
I already let him know I'm happy to be friends, but he's going to be TREATED like one. That means, no more intimacy, flirting and romance. You can't have your cake and eat it too...
And now that he's not getting the full deluxe package, he's now a ghost... as I expected.
I used to believe that I was a bad person. I'm not. I'm a good guy. I'm a good guy that gets all the bitches.
About a month ago, I was approached by a guy on Gay.com (my latest guilty pleasure) who saw me in a chat room. He is older than what I'm seeking, but I decided to chat anyway. Guess what? Things went well. We later talked on the phone and yadda, yadda, yadda.
Our first date was awesome. I couldn't have asked for a better time. I was really glad to know he was in search of a serious relationship, but taking it slow. He confided a lot in me and made me feel like he was really interested in the core of my being.
Low and behold, by the second date, he became a little self absorbed. I probably got a total of 10 words in edge wise, but I figured he just needed to talk. So, I listened. A day or two later, I got that bad feeling.
Sure enough, his text messages slowed, the compliments stopped and the flirting came to a hault. I knew something was up, so I tried to figure out why, but he wasn't taking the bait. Mind you, this was after he claimed to be completely honest and communicative. I was experiencing the opposite.
I was in the mindset of taking a romantic path, but unfortunately, he was not and I knew that without him even telling me. I was hurt because he didn't tell me where his mind was. So, I decided to call him before we met up for a third time and drag out of him where he saw things going.
"Just friends."
That's where he left it. Being friends was fine by me (and still is), but I was pissed. Here I was making all of these romantic gestures while they meant nothing. Not to mention, he was making me feel like there was something good going on with all the hand holding, touching and kissing. It was for nothing.
He should have let me know sooner, but he wasn't living up to his own standards and now he's treating me like men have treated him in the past. That's okay. He's damn lucky I didn't develop strong feelings for him.
I already let him know I'm happy to be friends, but he's going to be TREATED like one. That means, no more intimacy, flirting and romance. You can't have your cake and eat it too...
And now that he's not getting the full deluxe package, he's now a ghost... as I expected.
I used to believe that I was a bad person. I'm not. I'm a good guy. I'm a good guy that gets all the bitches.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
TIP: "Seeing Where Things Go"
"I just want to see where things go."
What the fuck does that mean exactly? Some may argue that it means taking things one day at a time, but the more dates I have, the more I'm starting to realize it means something else.
Every man is in control of his own destiny (to a degree). Relationships of all sorts take work, and dating is no different. When I go out on a date, I go in it with the mindset of building something, whatever the outcome may be. Sometimes things work and sometimes they don't. However, the outcome of dating is in the hands of BOTH suitors, not just one... it's the same as what they say about doing the tango.
The common- and almost-cliche opener, "I just want to see where things go," is becoming more and more of a cop out. In my experience, it's a man's way avoiding taking the bull by the horns. It's a "wandering" or passive approach to dating and not something those of us who take dating seriously want to be a part of.
The bottom line is, a good man who knows what he wants will steer the ship in the direction he wants to go and worry about the outcome later. That is not a matter of forcing a certain outcome, but like I said, relationships take work. Move in the direction you want to go.
So what does he mean exactly? Well, here's my take on it:
1. He doesn't want to get too close because he's afraid of being hurt. He approaches his relationships with caution and skepticism. It's likely that he still has emotional baggage from past relationships or he might have trust issues. With patience and loyalty, he may eventually come around, but go with his pace and have no expectations.
2. Although he may think or say otherwise, he's really not ready for a relationship. Don't be surprised if he's open to a little play until he makes up his mind. Chances are, he'll toss you aside when he's done playing. If your date seems to be emotionally and spiritually disconnected from you, "seeing where things go" is sure to go nowhere. This is a matter of having his cake...
3. He wants to have the upper-hand over what develops. That means, he wants to make the decision to split if he wants to split. Your opinion doesn't hold much weight because he's not interested in dinner for two. It's all about him.
4. He's dating more than one guy -- or at least wants to have that option.
5. Maybe he really does want to take things slow, but watch for a plateau in your relationship. Once things become stagnate, they usually go downhill from there.
I hope that brings some insight. Good luck, guys.
What the fuck does that mean exactly? Some may argue that it means taking things one day at a time, but the more dates I have, the more I'm starting to realize it means something else.
Every man is in control of his own destiny (to a degree). Relationships of all sorts take work, and dating is no different. When I go out on a date, I go in it with the mindset of building something, whatever the outcome may be. Sometimes things work and sometimes they don't. However, the outcome of dating is in the hands of BOTH suitors, not just one... it's the same as what they say about doing the tango.
The common- and almost-cliche opener, "I just want to see where things go," is becoming more and more of a cop out. In my experience, it's a man's way avoiding taking the bull by the horns. It's a "wandering" or passive approach to dating and not something those of us who take dating seriously want to be a part of.
The bottom line is, a good man who knows what he wants will steer the ship in the direction he wants to go and worry about the outcome later. That is not a matter of forcing a certain outcome, but like I said, relationships take work. Move in the direction you want to go.
So what does he mean exactly? Well, here's my take on it:
1. He doesn't want to get too close because he's afraid of being hurt. He approaches his relationships with caution and skepticism. It's likely that he still has emotional baggage from past relationships or he might have trust issues. With patience and loyalty, he may eventually come around, but go with his pace and have no expectations.
2. Although he may think or say otherwise, he's really not ready for a relationship. Don't be surprised if he's open to a little play until he makes up his mind. Chances are, he'll toss you aside when he's done playing. If your date seems to be emotionally and spiritually disconnected from you, "seeing where things go" is sure to go nowhere. This is a matter of having his cake...
3. He wants to have the upper-hand over what develops. That means, he wants to make the decision to split if he wants to split. Your opinion doesn't hold much weight because he's not interested in dinner for two. It's all about him.
4. He's dating more than one guy -- or at least wants to have that option.
5. Maybe he really does want to take things slow, but watch for a plateau in your relationship. Once things become stagnate, they usually go downhill from there.
I hope that brings some insight. Good luck, guys.
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Spotting a Liar
You might have guessed by now that I'm a big advocate for telling the truth. I was raised that way and the older I get, the less patience I have to weed through bullshit.
For quite some time now, I've seen more and more "older" men lie about their age. While I hate using the term "older" because of the negative connotations attached to it, I don't believe age (on either end of the spectrum) is a bad thing. However, it is what it is.
My online dating profiles clearly indicate that I'm seeking men who are 23-34. While I have my reasons, I'm not going to get into why I have that criteria right now, but I do want to address the men who lie about their age, especially after having read my profile.
Some men believe age is "irrelevant" because it's "nothing but a number. Others think they can get more attention if they present themselves as a younger man. Either way, it's still deceitful and anyone who starts a relationship with a lie (white or not) should immediately be cut off.
Trickery is unacceptable and any man who has to hide his truth from others is not someone you want to be involved with. Period. Plus, it's a waste of time.
So... How do you spot an older liar?
1. They might THINK they can fool you, but a 47 year old man does not look 31. Use your common sense. If you're still unsure, ask him to reveal his birth year to you during a real-time conversation (like IM or chat). If it takes him more than 3 seconds to respond, he's covering his tracks.
2. If the age on his profile doesn't match what he tells you, he's probably lying. "Oh, I didn't realize it says 36 on my profile" and "I haven't been online in a while" are a couple of the most common lines of bullshit. Most active internet users are aware of what their profile says and most inactive internet users update their information after an extended hiatus. If the age indicated on his profile isn't accurate, there are probably other things that aren't accurate either.
3. If he doesn't list an age on his profile, he's fully aware that it holds him back. That's why it's not there. Any man who has nothing to hide won't hide.
4. Men who try to hide their age will often avoid the question and change the subject. Or, they'll bluntly say they don't want to tell you. When men make a big issue out of revealing their age, you can count on other hidden secrets they don't want you to know.
5. We are in a digital age and there should be no reason why a man doesn't have a current DIGITAL photograph of himself. Scanned photo prints scream mid 2000s or earlier -- before digital cameras became affordable and popular. A man who has a scanned photo (and only a scanned photo) up is probably 5-10 years older than he says he is.
Good luck boys.
For quite some time now, I've seen more and more "older" men lie about their age. While I hate using the term "older" because of the negative connotations attached to it, I don't believe age (on either end of the spectrum) is a bad thing. However, it is what it is.
My online dating profiles clearly indicate that I'm seeking men who are 23-34. While I have my reasons, I'm not going to get into why I have that criteria right now, but I do want to address the men who lie about their age, especially after having read my profile.
Some men believe age is "irrelevant" because it's "nothing but a number. Others think they can get more attention if they present themselves as a younger man. Either way, it's still deceitful and anyone who starts a relationship with a lie (white or not) should immediately be cut off.
Trickery is unacceptable and any man who has to hide his truth from others is not someone you want to be involved with. Period. Plus, it's a waste of time.
So... How do you spot an older liar?
1. They might THINK they can fool you, but a 47 year old man does not look 31. Use your common sense. If you're still unsure, ask him to reveal his birth year to you during a real-time conversation (like IM or chat). If it takes him more than 3 seconds to respond, he's covering his tracks.
2. If the age on his profile doesn't match what he tells you, he's probably lying. "Oh, I didn't realize it says 36 on my profile" and "I haven't been online in a while" are a couple of the most common lines of bullshit. Most active internet users are aware of what their profile says and most inactive internet users update their information after an extended hiatus. If the age indicated on his profile isn't accurate, there are probably other things that aren't accurate either.
3. If he doesn't list an age on his profile, he's fully aware that it holds him back. That's why it's not there. Any man who has nothing to hide won't hide.
4. Men who try to hide their age will often avoid the question and change the subject. Or, they'll bluntly say they don't want to tell you. When men make a big issue out of revealing their age, you can count on other hidden secrets they don't want you to know.
5. We are in a digital age and there should be no reason why a man doesn't have a current DIGITAL photograph of himself. Scanned photo prints scream mid 2000s or earlier -- before digital cameras became affordable and popular. A man who has a scanned photo (and only a scanned photo) up is probably 5-10 years older than he says he is.
Good luck boys.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
UPDATED: I need your vote!
A couple of weeks ago, I entered a logo contest for the Greater Phoenix Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (GPGLCC). After a couple of hiccups, the finals have begun and it's now time to vote.
The winner will be announced on Feb 20. You can view my submission and cast your vote at www.gpglcc.org. I am #12 and #13.
To vote for my submission, send an e-mail to admin@gpglcc.org with the word "Logo" in the subject and the number "13" in the message body.
I will keep you posted with the results in a few days. Thank you for your support!
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Looking Ahead
Now that 2008 is long gone (and thank God for that), I decided to make some serious internal and attitudinal changes necessary for the new year. Generally speaking, the past 365 days were rough. Dating was a complete failure, my job took a downturn and a few clients cheated me out of some money. Now, it's time to make some changes.
For starters, I've come to an epiphany: I am NOT for sale and I am NOT for rent. I shouldn't have to make a sales pitch in order to convince a guy that I'm worthy. If anything, it should go BOTH ways, and when the right guy comes along, he'll fight for me just as much as I'll fight for him. Period!
I should not be feel bad or be embarrassed by my dating preferences. Yes, I like white and Latino men and on occasion, other ethnic groups will draw me in. That doesn't mean I'm prejudice, close-minded or shallow. I like what I like and I want what I want. Period. No more feeling bad about it and no more beating myself up.
I need to be more honest with myself and be more straight forward about what I want. In most cases, I settle for less than I deserve and get burned. If I have to be a little more selfish and shallow, so be it. If a guy can't brush his teeth, nope. Not for me. If a guy can't control his hormones. Nope. Not this guy. It's a new year.
There you have it.
For starters, I've come to an epiphany: I am NOT for sale and I am NOT for rent. I shouldn't have to make a sales pitch in order to convince a guy that I'm worthy. If anything, it should go BOTH ways, and when the right guy comes along, he'll fight for me just as much as I'll fight for him. Period!
I should not be feel bad or be embarrassed by my dating preferences. Yes, I like white and Latino men and on occasion, other ethnic groups will draw me in. That doesn't mean I'm prejudice, close-minded or shallow. I like what I like and I want what I want. Period. No more feeling bad about it and no more beating myself up.
I need to be more honest with myself and be more straight forward about what I want. In most cases, I settle for less than I deserve and get burned. If I have to be a little more selfish and shallow, so be it. If a guy can't brush his teeth, nope. Not for me. If a guy can't control his hormones. Nope. Not this guy. It's a new year.
There you have it.
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